Here is one of the most important secrets you will
ever learn that will help you discover how to Make Love for as Long
as You Choose and stop premature ejaculation.
Sexually, men face two major difficulties throughout their lives.
The first is, as a young, virile teenager, being able to last long
enough to satisfy a woman, or even satisfy yourself. After weeks
of anticipation, it is often all over in a few minutes. Do you
remember those times? Or are you still in the position of sometimes
not lasting as long as you would like? Premature ejaculation is
an embarrassment for a man of any age.
Not a happy memory.
Not a happy memory for a married man either, especially if your
wife does not want to make love as much as you do. When she does,
you ejaculate too soon and she is left feeling frustrated and sometimes
angry. Even though she might not say so or show it, she feels it.
Not good times for a man of any age. I would rate ejaculating before
the woman wants to, high on any man's private list of embarrassing
times.
Be honest about this. If premature ejaculation is a problem
sometimes and you want to do something about it, the first step
is to acknowledge
it to
yourself. Remember, you are not the only man who faces this difficulty.
The second major difficulty is: at some stage in your later years,
you will no longer come too soon, but you won't come at all. You
won't be able to get an erection or if you do, it certainly won't
stand up as straight and hard as it used to. Very often your woman's
sexual energy has increased because most women reach their sexual
prime when they are over forty. There is the opportunity for lovemaking,
but you can't do anything about it because your sexual energy is
not as strong. If you do get an erection and ejaculate, instead
of the mind blowing explosion it used to be, it barely trickles
out. It's more like a squeak than a roar. If you haven't experienced
this yet, I guarantee that at some stage it will happen.
However there is something you can do about it, as it is not necessarily
a part of ageing. These major difficulties can be overcome through
learning the essential techniques of ejaculation control.
First Secret: The Pubic Coccyx
(PC) Muscle
The first and most important thing to learn is how to strengthen
your pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle) or love muscle. This muscle
is the major muscle of contraction in male and female orgasm. Strengthening
the PC muscle helps to strengthen your erection and increase the
sensations of your climax, which is very important in older years.
The PC muscle extends from the base of the spine, where it is
connected to the coccyx, to the front of the body where it is connected
to the pubic bone. Just as you can tense and release your fist
or tense and release your shoulders, you can tense and release
the PC muscle. This will exercise the muscle that can increase
your and your partners pleasure.
Anyone can tense their fist. Try
it now to give you the idea. Tense your fist and feel your biceps
muscle tighten, then release – totally.
Now see if you can tense and release the biceps muscle alone. Muscle
isolation practice will help you to isolate the PC muscle.
It is the PC muscle you use to cut off urination. The next time
you urinate, try to stop the flow in midstream to get a feeling
of activating the PC muscle only. At first you may need to tighten
the whole pelvic floor which includes the anus muscle and perhaps
the lower abdominal muscles.
Some men may need to tense the whole upper body to pull up the
PC muscle. See if you can locate the PC muscle. Flex it, even if
your whole body tightens. Just as you isolated the muscle in the
biceps from the fist, you can totally relax your upper body and
still tense the pelvic floor.
Try it now as you are reading this. Your pelvic floor is tight,
but the rest of your body is relaxed. As you practise this regularly
and your PC muscle gets stronger, you will be able to distinguish
it from the nearby muscles. In the earlier stages, do not concern
yourself with this, just tighten and release all the muscles in
this pelvic floor area, including the anus and buttocks. Continue
to tighten and release several times.
Later in your own private space, while you are standing in front
of a mirror, continually draw up and release this PC muscle as
if you are holding back urination. You will notice that you can
make the penis move up and down as you tighten and release this
muscle. If you can do this, then you know you are exercising the
right muscle.
Now that you have located the muscle you can start to strengthen
it. Incorporate these simple exercises into your daily routine,
associating them with a particular activity and independent of
your lovemaking sessions. Then the exercises will become habitual
and you won't have to set aside a special time to practise. For
example, you can practise while you drive or travel to and from
work and no one will know you are doing it.
Strengthening
the PC muscle is one of the greatest lovemaking secrets a
man can know.
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