Many sex magicians prefer to perform their rituals in the form
of auto-eroticism and/or having intercourse with a partner. But there are more
possibilities and variations. You may wish to take a look at them and consider
to implement them in your sex magickal practice.
Solo sex magick
"Hey, don't knock masturbation. It's sex with someone
I love!"
Woody Allen
To many of us the word masturbation has a bad taste. It is said
to be sinful and make you deaf, lame and blind (?) Let's be honest and admit
that almost all human beings masturbate since the discovery of their sexuality
in childhood. Masturbation is a very good way to overall self-acceptance and
respect for your body as an earthly home for your spirit. If you practice physical
self-love this way I guarantee you a much greater feeling of satisfaction and
calmness of mind then when you use it as a quick way to get rid of tension.
The above mentioned quote of Woody Allen makes me smile, but it contains truth:
accepting and enjoying self-stimulation is making love with your inner lover.
After this intro it won't surprise you that many sex magicians advice to start
practicing sex magick with masturbation. It's simply the best way to learn
to know your body, to explore your individual reactions and learn how to prolong
orgasm. Another reason is that it makes you independent of a partner; it is
a powerful sex magick technique in itself. And this explains why most sex magickal
acts are auto-erotic.
The best known solo sex magick practice is one person raising
magical energy by self-stimulation.
Another possibility is visualizing a god or goddess making love
to you while you're masturbating. Gods and goddesses personify important human
characteristics and talents/qualities, or aspects of life in their pure form.
We can imagine yourself in sexual union with a deity in case we wish to strengthen
or emphasize these qualities in ourselves.
- You may need help for a specific goal, for instance from a goddess of love,
a god of healing or a god specialized in divination. If this is the case,
start the ritual, arouse yourself and invoke the chosen god/goddess. Visualize
the deity as vivid as you can with all your senses! Keep on repeating the
name of your deity; at the moment of orgasm you channel the energy into your
goal (something related to the deity).
- You may wish the god's help to improve certain qualities in yourself, let's
say intuition. In this case your 'goal' is projected inside yourself: while
astrally making love you absorb the divine energy which will help you manifest
that same energy yourself. Build up as much energy as you can and climax.
Thank and release the deity before you end the ritual! Working with a god/goddess
can be intensely erotic. Deities are free from negative sexual conditioning,
they will let go, and they bring along much energy.
Note: each deity has its own personality and they will bring it with during
their love play. Therefore know who you invite. Working with deities is not
something I would advice for beginning sex magicians.
You can even go further by invoking a god/goddess into your own body. Here
you deliberately surrender your ego. You offer yourself completely for a higher
purpose. You can work this deep and intense sex magick as described above.
At the end thank and release the deity! Again: this is not for starting
sex magicians. And never, never invoke an entity lower than a god/goddess/archangel
into your body!
Jupiter seducing Olympia, painting by Guilio Romano
A technique between solo and duo sex magick is this: one magician fully concentrates
on the magical goal, while a supportive partner arouses him/her. After having
explored auto-erotic sex magick first, this is a good way to smoothly 'glide'
into working with a partner.
Sex magick with a partner
"Come forth, o children, under the stars, and take your
fill of love."
Aleister Crowley
In partner sex magick the energy circulates and builds up between
two people. To produce great effect it is best if both partners are more or
less equally trained in sex magick, or truly willing to become so and practice
a lot. Your partner should always know that you intent to do a sex magick ritual!
- and agree with it! It is perfect to expand barriers in duo sex magick as
long as you both feel comfortable with it. If for any reason something happens
against your will immediately stop the ritual!
The commonly known technique of duo sex magick is having intercourse,
be it with a partner of the opposite sex or of the same sex. Several magicians
advice the position woman-on-top for sex magick; in this position the woman
controls the depth and rhythm of penetration, she can get clitoral stimulation,
and most men need more time to reach orgasm. All good reasons to use this position,
but even more important is your personal preference. And you might wish to
change positions as well; for this reason it is practical to place your symbol/sigil
on different places in the room - or draw it with body paint on your partner's
body!
Intercourse positions can be seen as asana's, yoga-positions,
each having a specific way of freeing and directing energies. I came across
some considerations on certain positions:
- The famous missionary position (man-on-top): here the chakra's of the partners
are placed opposite each other and partners can look into each others eyes;
this enhances intimacy, contact, healing and energy. A good position for
a man to reach orgasm. This position is advised if you're doing magick for
a positive change in the man's life.
- An interesting variation for sex magick: still man-on-top, but the woman
holds her legs together after penetration and does not move; only the man
is active giving her his energy, she holds all this sexual energy and directs
it into the universe. I would name this a good position to do magick for
a mutual goal - or for something the woman wishes to realize.
- Woman-on-top (cowgirl or camel-position): this woman-active position is
good to do magick for a goal the woman wishes to realize. The woman gets
more stimulation and the man tends to ejaculate later.
- Woman-on-top-reversed (with her face looking at her partner's feet): in
this position there's no eye-contact, but it can be very stimulating for
both partners. A good position to do magick for a friend of the woman (she
receives much of his energy and can direct it into the universe).
- Side-to-side-positions: both partners are equally active/receptive; their
chakras are placed opposite each other and their eyes meet - what means a
lot of contact and exchange of energies. Good for magick for a mutual goal.
- Doggie-position (woman on her knees, or lying on her belly, and the man
entering her from behind): many people like this position, because it brings
up their wild, instinctive side. A highly energizing position, and good for
sending energy to someone the man wants to send energy to.
- Lotus-position (the man sits in lotus- or meditation-position with the
woman on his lap, her legs around his waist and his arms on her shoulders):
a highly meditational position with not much room to move but much contact
between the chakra's, a very good position to use the 'secret language' consisting
of male and female rhythmical internal movements with the pelvis muscles.
A good position if your magick aims at spiritual development with slowly
and steady built up energies, not really directed at a specific goal in the
outside world. (for this aim also the side-by-side positions are very suitable).
- Anal sex; this strongly brings up our wild and beastly side; while the
man penetrates the woman he can stimulate her G-spot and/or clitoris. Good
for highly energized sex magick.
Warning: I hate warnings, but I have to let you know that everything
that has been in the anus - be it a finger, sex-toy, penis, whatever -
has to be cleaned thoroughly before you can insert it into the vagina!
Because the anus contains much bacteria which in absolute no way should
be transmitted to the vagina, being the inside of a woman's body, where
they can cause very serious infections!
Another way of partner sex magick is using fellatio and cunnilingus,
better known as 'position 69', being mutual oral sex. Visualize the energy
reaching you through the mouth of your partner, entering your body at the
genitals, moving up to your mouth and then leaving you to enter the genitals
or your partner; in this way you visualize an increasing circle or energy.
Mutual oral sex magick is not suitable if you work with affirmations, but
good if you work with sigils and visualizations.
Partners can agree to invoke a god or goddess into one of the
partners, while the other partner keeps his or her human form. This is a
strong way of adoring the divine core in your partner and it can be really
special for both partners. The partner who will take on the god-form allows
his or her mind to go blank, while the other partner invokes the god/goddess
into his or her (it may be clear that you have to agree on the deity on beforehand).
These rituals merely serve spiritual development; you normally don't use
them for a specific goal in the outside world, but both enjoy adoring the
divinity in a sexual way.
In The Great Rite a god/goddess is invoked into both partners.
This is for advanced sex magicians. The male magician invokes the goddess
into the female magician (having her mind blank), and the female magician
invokes the god into her partner (having made his mind blank) - or the other
way around. Again this is sex magick for spiritual evolution, and it can
be very intense and unusual.
Distance sex magick. For instance you live in London, your
partner is on a business-trip in Tokyo and you want to do magick together.
Agree (on the phone or email) on a goal, affirmation/visualization/sigil,
time to start the ritual and approximate length of it (mind the different
time-zones). Visualize a very big circle of protection, covering all the
way from London to Tokyo. Then start masturbating, strongly visualizing your
partner having sex with you, calling out his/her name from time to time and
complete the ritual.
Group sex magick rituals
"There is no act of passion that shall not be a hymn
in mine honour."
Aleister Crowley
A group sex magickal act is not a kinky party; see it as a
serious dedication of a number of people to a certain goal. The fact that
magick works synergistic is a very good reason for a group to practice (sex)
magick. No one in the world can demand you to ever do a sex magickal act
against your will. But you may also consider that social behavior has taught
us to regard our bodies and sexual expressions as being sinful - thus keeping
us from showing our nudity and sexuality in public. So the big question I'd
like to ask, and I don't know the answer, is: how natural is the aversion
of many people against group sex?
Group rituals are for advanced sex magicians. Every participant
must know how to raise, control and direct energies. They must be determined
to work magick with their sexuality; if their aim is to sexually freak out
with many partners they will ruin the ritual. In a group ritual it is absolutely
not possible to cross barriers, the group has to agree on possible borders
on beforehand. If someone namely does something another member of the group
feels uncomfortable with, the whole energy chain will be broken and the ritual
will be worthless. Generally spoken group rituals can follow the techniques
described under solo and duo sex magick. They can be masturbatory, in the
form of having intercourse,or in the form of a large oral circle. Of course
establishing an atmosphere of contact, trust and openness is very important
within a group ritual. A group meditation, holding hands in a circle feeling
the energy circulating, or maybe chanting a mantra together are very good
to start with.
A larger group will have a leader, a person not participating in the ritual,
but spiritually and magically guiding the group. The leader will do the banishments
and take care of the timing and process of the ritual. This gives the group
the opportunity to be completely sexually involved, raising enormous energy.
The leader will from time to time ask the group to spread the raised energy
amongst the group and to focus it into the direction of the chosen goal.
The leader will also harmonize the energies by directing them with his will,
and raising them if needed, from a place with much energy to a place within
the group with less energy. And at the peak of the sexual energy the leader
will ask the group to work towards orgasm and channel all their energy into
the magical goal.
I would like to end this piece with the suggestion of a group
ritual for the healing of mother earth. (Or a partner ritual, or a solo ritual...)
Nowadays many groups meditate for the well being and healing of our planet.
By using sex magick we can actively send healing to the planet who gave birth
to all of us. The bible states that our bodies are made from dust of the
earth. With sex magick we can return mother earth some of this gift.
More Articles On Sex Magick In This Section
Introduction
To Sex Magick
Preparations For Sex Magick
Practicing Sex
Magick
Sex Magick Rituals
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