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Advice
Four absolute instances for breaking up
Relationships often begin
quite simply. There is a meeting. Then Attraction. Perhaps
friendship or passion comes next. And then...next thing you
know you have found yourself in a full-fledged relationship.
Or perhaps you pushed for the dating to mean something. To
have a title. And you forced your way into your current relationship.
However its birth, relationships
often have a long and drawn-out death. This is because being
in a relationship is not an easy thing. There needs to be
mutual compromise, respect, interest, attraction etc. When
one or more of these things is missing, your relationship
is headed for trouble. Do you know when to break up? It can
be a very grey area, especially if you have invested a lot
of time and emotions in your relationship, but the four items
below describe issues that have been sending couples to splitsville
forever. Learn from their mistakes.
1. Physical abuse: Hitting.
Slapping. Punching. Kicking. Shoving/Pushing. If you have
just been hurt today or you hurt someone today, it's time
to end the relationship. One of you needs help, and most likely
both of you do. Get healthy first. Get the help you need.
It's time to break up.
2. Verbal abuse. Common in
many relationships, especially teen ones. If this type of
behavior is not nipped in the bud it usually continues during
the duration of the relationship. There are couples who have
been miserably married for 10 or 20 etc. years, because they
are in a verbally abusive relationship. If you are constantly
being put down by someone - break up.
3. No Respect If there is
no mutual respect in your relationship, then there is not
a healthy partnership or probably not even hope for a healthy
relationship. If you are disillusioned or disgusted by your
partner, the work to gain that respect back is very difficult
to achieve. It might be easier on everyone involved to let
go. It's time to break up and move on.
4. No Trust. If you do not
trust your partner or vice-versa, imagine how many arguments
and sleepless nights you both will have. Who needs that? There
are couples who try to rebuild trust after it has been broken
(such as with one major incident like an infidelity), but
if you are continually doubting and questioning your partner
and you feel that this is probably part of his or her character-
then it is time to break up.
| Authors Details: 'Break Up Advice'
Lisa Angelettie, M.S.W., is a psychotherapist, author,
and an online advice expert. She has been helping people
make smarter life choices since 1998. Web
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