Relationship
karma operates in all our relationships and starts in each
life with childhood family interactions. Relationships are
where we learn fundamental lessons in life through contact
with karmic connections and soulmates. Karmic connections
or soul groups are people we feel instantly familiar with.
We have a sense of connection stemming from a previous life
or lives either in a positive or negative setting.
Soulmates are two people who
are extremely compatible on most levels. The connection is
usually extensive, spanning several lives and for the most
part positive. We can have several soulmates, and they can
be in incarnation with us or acting as guides for our present
life, helping us and encouraging us from the other side. Our
soulmates have generally shared many experiences with us and
know us well. All these contacts and relationships are usually
intensely emotional, and some of them can conjure up strong
feelings either positive or negative, all for a purpose.
These experiences and connections
happen to provide opportunities to develop the qualities and
characteristics we are most in need of. These relationships
can often be identified with our patterns of abuse, abandonment,
love, manipulation, power struggles, rejection and intimacy:
issues we learn and grow from. Power issues are particularly
common in relationship karma. People get drawn into dependent
relationships where one person holds all the power, and tension
often arises when it is time for the other person to take
back his or her power.
We may be the victim, martyr,
persecutor or rescuer with fixed ideas that rigidly control
our lives and hold us back from growing emotionally or spiritually.
We may also be a love addict within the relationship and unable
to move out of it, which leaves us feeling "stuck."
We may be looking for conditional love but need to learn the
art of unconditional love, and the ability to "allow."
We may be seeking love from outside ourselves when the real
challenge is to love ourselves. Perhaps we need to reframe
our whole perspective in regards to loving and being loved.
We may also be perpetuating an old pattern, such as infidelity
or betrayal or even simply very deep love. We may even experience
the exact opposite of these as a kind of balancing experience
for our development and growth in order to advance a strength
or resource we need.
Retributive karma can be involved
when a person has betrayed their partner in a past life sometimes
find that in this life, it is they who are betrayed or rejected.
Subsequently they find themselves in a position where they
are making some form of reparation for that original betrayal.
Perhaps we may also be closely bound to someone by an old
vow that needs playing out or releasing. However, we can change
or release these patterns by finding a new way to deal with
the person projecting the pattern to us. Perhaps we need to
acknowledge the part of us that has those emotions and deal
with it in our own appropriate way, by fully accepting our
emotional self and choosing not to be held captive by our
emotions. This can be harder for some people to do than others.
General therapy can be very helpful to such people as a way
to improve and change limiting patterns.
Another way is to go back
to the past through Past Life Therapy and deal with issues
therapeutically and spiritually in that setting through releasement
and healing. Outer difficulties can only be resolved through
bringing out the appropriate virtues of mind and soul. We
set in motion from the past what comes into the present and
our life today is an "emotional learning ground"
when it comes to relationships.
We often choose a particular
relationship in order to grow and learn how to complete a
full attachment or how to disengage from one and break free
from a dependent bond that has been formed previously. All
is for our growth, development and evolution. It can be hard
for some people today to find that their partner does not
develop at the same pace at a spiritual level, even though
strong feelings may be present at a physical or emotional
level. Such an imbalance can often lead to depression, suffering
and sometimes tragedy to the relationship. However, this is
all part of the bigger picture for both partners to learn
and grow from the experience, each in their own way.
I believe that ultimately
the spiritual purpose of partnership is to develop wholeness
within us, to create freedom and take back or release our
power over someone. We are a combination of male and female
energies and our challenge is to harmonize the male and female
within in each lifetime. This is the key to true balance and
spirituality. We each learn our lessons differently because
we are each at our own level of growth. So much of relationships
is sorting out chaos and emotions and learning to love ourselves.
On a higher level, every problem is self-caused and therefore
must be self-redeemed. We must awaken from our complacency.
In doing this, we begin to see the spiritual behind the physical
and our lives open to new awareness.
| Authors
Details: Michael
Millet
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