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As
a life coach I
am often asked about
true love, soul mates and twin flames. The most
common questions are "What
is true love?" and "What does true love feel like?"
The
answer is not easy and there are certain things you need to
consider that will help you recognize true love
in your life.
1. Love is unconditional
That means you love someone
irrespective of what they do to you and regardless
of any strong negative emotions you experience in your relationship
with them.
Once you place conditions on your love, it's not really love it's
a business
arrangement.
This is what you might say in a relationship..
"I love you as long as you ...."
(eg: behave the way I want you to
behave)
The concept of unconditional love does not mean you stay in a relationship when
it is detrimental for you. You can still love and leave.
2.
Soul mates
The term soul mate has been distorted and romanticized
in the media and as a result you may find yourself 'waiting'
for your ideal relationship and/or partner to come along.
This leads to the following problems..
Waiting
When you are waiting, you are pushing away what is happening
now and you miss out on your current life complete with
opportunities that are here now.
Firstly this puts you in a state of not being fulfilled.
It is only possible to find peace and happiness in the
present moment. So
by definition, the waiting has
a negative impact on
your life.
Secondly
waiting for true love or a soul mate also means you are
creating something to wait for. If its the romantic 'ideal'
of a soul mate
you will miss
the
real
opportunity of love that often sits in front of you. You miss
your opportunity because you
are waiting for an 'ideal'. You can't begin to
imagine what your real soul mate will be
like,
so it's
probable that
you
are projecting something that is unrealistic or too vague
without being aware of what you are doing. You can't recognize
your opportunity for love because you can never find your ideal
image, it doesn't exist.
Last
of all this waiting state makes you vulnerable to others that
may take advantage of you
(deliberately or unconsciously)
You
will
give out a certain signal that will be matched by someone else's
corresponding state. That’s not always bad but
it leaves you open to false starts and dashed hopes. It could
also expose
you to danger in certain situations.
3.
More on Soul mates
In general terms, soul mate refers to a similar
soul. That means someone like you. Someone
who has similar issues and life lessons to learn. You attract
others 'like you' who may appear and act
differently, but when you look deeply at the underlying
life issues, they are very similar to you. They are your reflection.
Your soul mate or should I say 'mates' as you have
more
than
one,
is very close to you spiritually. You are on
the same journey.
That means...
You
may not be romantically connected. There is just a connection
and that connection could be positive or negative.
It could
be a
teacher/ student relationship, a friendship or you may be
enemies. They are all connections.
If your beliefs extend to reincarnation then these
connections span many lifetimes and are often
characterized with
that, 'we have met before' feeling. Sometimes just an uncanny
comfortable feeling that you can't explain. When your soul mate
comes along there is no rule that says they have to be the way
your romantic ideal suggests. They may not even be of the correct
sex. This often happens
because your soul mates mission is to help you not to be an ideal
partner for a romance. They help you by being your reflection
and showing you something about
yourself.
This is often painful. If the union results in pain then as so
often happens your relationship with them may not
survive.
4.
Attraction
The force of attraction exists so that you can learn
from other people. Without attraction you wouldn't be drawn to
certain people and you will miss important lessons.
This is how your life works and is a requirement
for
your spiritual journey. You learn when you have human interaction
and that means people coming together. As others
reflect who you are, you are able
to
learn.
This
attraction
is not exclusive to romantic relationships. You are attracted
to people and places without any sexual feelings
involved.
Attraction is often mistaken for sexual attraction
and confused with
sexual energy. Conversely if there is attraction and sexual energy
it doesn't mean you have to act on the sexual impulse. You can
still have a platonic relationship with that person.
5.
Self Development
You attract and join with people who are similar
to you. The easiest way to get a great partner is to pursue
your
own self development. When
'someone' comes along they will reflect you and you will be at
your best! Therefore the chance of a great relationship is accentuated.
6.
Twin souls or Twin Flames
This is greatly misunderstood. Your twin soul or flame is really
just another part of you. You need to join the masculine
and feminine sides of your soul in order
for
you to be
and feel complete.
This requires you to be balanced and
achieve
the enlightened state that allows you to transcend your ego.
When
you are balanced internally it
is duplicated and reflected in your physical environment. That
means your relationship
either current or new will feel incredibly special just like you
have met your twin soul. This is just a reflection of the balance
you have achieved internally. In other words to achieve a special
relationship or true love look internally and work on improving
the flow of
love from yourself. The outside world will take care of itself.
True
Love
The force of love is the energy
that
flows through you and everyone else. This energy is
altered and distorted because you, with your mind are a filter
of this energy. True love is this energy shining through
a very clear
filter. You clear your filter when you pursue a path of personal
development and work through your emotional issues.
One
of the ways to recognize love is to look around you and check
to see if you love and accept the people in your life for
what and who they are. Without judgment and without trying
to change them
to be like you.
True
love is subjective but the degree to which you feel it is
irrelevant. You will feel that something 'magical' is happening
when it happens, if you are 'clear'. You achieve this state by
following a path of personal development.
Two
easy ways for personal development (see below)
1. I can offer you Life Coaching.
2. The Key To life manual.
Authors
Details:
Aymen Fares is an International Life Coach with clients all over the world.
He is based in Melbourne Australia.
Contact details.
OR
find out about his 'Key To Life' Manual |
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