Here are some simple steps to take if you hear yourself saying “I don’t know what to do”
There is a famous poem written by Robert Frost in 1920 (Google – The Road Not Taken) In this poem the author makes a comparison of “Life” to a road through the Woods. He says that some roads are smooth and others are bumpy or have obstacles. This is very true of life and in the poem Frost encourages you to take risks and explore the unknown. I agree with this wholeheartedly because it’s so much fun.
However no matter which road you take there will be times when the following happens;
- You get stuck
- You reach a seemingly insurmountable obstacle
- You meet a problem outside your realm of experience
- You are confused by a situation and it causes you to stop
- You experience fear and you can move ahead
- You are so surprised by a situation you don’t know what to do
When you don’t know what to do, it’s very easy to end up in a rut. This creates a negative feedback loop and you end up no doing anything. Your thoughts run along this type of thinking.
You ask your self – “Now what do I do?” You answer – “I don’t know?”
This happens again and again – over and over.
There are simple solutions…
Solutions to “I don’t Know what to do?”
1. Re-frame the questions you ask yourself in regard to your situation
Sometimes you ask the same question of yourself – over and over again. “Why did he do that?” Of course its likely if you didn’t know the answer 10 minutes ago you won’t know the answer now. Ask something different – “What made him do what he did?” Sometimes this gives you the ability to get an answer just because the question is different.