Enlightenment. Part 2 Freedom from Desire

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(Enlightenment Pt 1)

The hardest challenge is to be yourself in a world where everyone is trying to make you be somebody else.
E. E. Cummings

What you love is a sign from your higher self of what you are to do.
Sanyana Roman

People often ask for guidance. “What should I do?” is a typical question. The reason you ask is because you do what you think you should do, to fit in with others and gain their approval. The action to conform is driven by your emotional reaction to what happens around you. All is not lost because you have a inbuilt guidance system that, just like magic, literally makes you love what you are made to do. The trick is to separate what you love from the emotional reaction of “this is what I should do” You do this by following the path of enlightenment or put simply, personal development.

Freedom From Desire

Part of the enlightenment process is to be free of desire. Desire is your emotional pull towards a preference. The emotion you experience makes you move towards certain things irrespective of whether they are good or bad for you. The point is that you are making your decision based on an intense feeling that appears to be the ‘right’ thing. Your emotions however often make you do things that you would not normally do if you were thinking clearly.

Freedom from desire is often also expressed as freedom from the material world. I mean that you base your life on getting more possessions or becoming a success. The rationale is that if you don’t have as much or better, you are not as good. This is incorrect thinking that is clouded with emotion. When you are free from the material world you can still have whatever you want however you are liberated from the slavery of working for possessions just to keep pace with your colleagues. Here is a simple example.

You see that the neighbors have a new wide screen plasma television and theatre system. You know that Gary your neighbor earns less than you do so you feel that you better get one too. You spend many thousands of dollars on a similar system when your goal for the year was something altogether different. It is an emotional decision that you easily justify by telling yourself that you work hard and you also deserve a new television.

If you were to see the thoughts that created the emotion which in turn made you buy the television they run along these lines;

“Hey how does Gary afford that? I can’t afford that and he earns less than me”

“What will people think if I don’t have one?”

“People will think that I am not a success”

“John across the road will think Gary is doing better than me”

and so on.

The important part is that there is nothing wrong with the purchase. The purchase by itself is neither positive or negative. Enlightenment allows you to understand why you are buying the television and gives you the clarity to decide for transparent reasons NOT hidden reasons. You don’t need to work harder just because you need to keep pace with your peers.

Here is a more complex example and is typical of many people. A client of mine is driven to succeed in business and with women. This emotional and unconscious drive creates pressure and stress. When describing a recent relationship breakup with a woman his description sounded like he just lost a possession not a relationship. An analysis of the ‘why’ behind his drive to succeed in these areas leads to the revelation that he believes his father will love him more if he is a success.

Is this true? The answer is no it is not true.

When pressed for examples, the best example he could muster was an observation of his fathers behavior during a particular event. My clients observation was very brief and heavily laced with assumptions that were both fantasy and biased. This is what your mind creates when you do not think clearly. Remember it’s not easy to see that your vision is obscured unless you look at the results you have created in your life.

When you are not clear your world is biased and emotional. You cannot see what is the truth. This particular gentleman may miss the opportunity of a truly successful relationship just because he is looking for a trophy instead of love or compatibility.

In the quest for liberation from the material world there is a major mistake to be avoided. This mistake is predominant but not exclusive to the spiritual community.

When you think clearly you will be free from emotional desire and follow a path that allows expression. Everyone needs to express themselves to be spiritually healthy. Healthy expression means to pursue your preferences instead of your emotional needs. This is impossible without fixing something. It is your thinking that needs to be corrected in order to eliminate your emotional need and allow space for your true expression to manifest.

The mistake you need to avoid is the opposite emotional reaction which often appears to be the solution. That mistake is to give up material possessions altogether. Many people shun the material world in the mistaken belief that;

1. You become a better person.
2. You are free from emotional desire.
3. You are now on the spiritual path.
4. That’s what God wants you to do.
5. Material possessions are bad or evil.

All of this is grossly incorrect. When you shun the material world you are just experiencing the opposite emotional reaction to the exact same situation described above. Material possessions are simply and only material possessions. You need to learn to see them clearly as such.

When you shun the material world it means you are going left, driven by emotion to reject possessions. When you are caught in the material world you are going right, driven by emotion to acquire possessions.

Your freedom and the key to a great life is in the middle. Neither left or right. Free from the emotional force that drives your life. Free to follow your path of preference. You need to master the material world instead of being a slave to it or conversely closing your eyes to it.

The hardest part in dealing with your emotions is that they block your ability to see what you think. The easiest, fastest and most thorough way to improve your life and master your emotions is with direct help. Join the growing band of people around the world who benefit directly from my experience through coaching.

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